An Enlightening Convo

Tonight for Home Evening my roommate volunteered me to do the lesson for another group. I was actually excited to go with that group because it is always wonderful to spend time with our Bishopric. They are great guys. After the lesson and game, we had refreshments. When I was getting ready to leave, this bishopric member started to talk to me about a few things.

Somehow, we got on the topic of guys and he asked the million-dollar question. What is that you may ask. It is Do guys date anymore? This one question started a pretty long conversation (at least 40 minutes) about guys. We talked about there are some amazing girls in this area and how the guys do not seem to notice. He then proceeded to call the guys numbskulls because they don't seem to get what great girls are around them weekly. Through this conversation we talked about a few things like:

~ How some guys are intimated by girls because they are "too perfect".
~ How guys seem to think that girls have certain "expectation" of them and so they don't ask them out.
~ Why people don't date anymore.
~ How dates do not need to be expensive or elaborate.
~ Dates can be fun things that allow you to get to know the other.
~ Why it seems like people seem to prefer to "hang out" rather than date.
~ How guys expect to get married without dating
~ What not dating does to the girls.
~ How women tend to beat themselves up over everything. For example, not being good enough for guys, what to do with the rest of their lives etc.

This was really an interesting conversation. He admitted that he married later than most people in his age group, but that people his age would go out and date and have fun. He was surprised with how clueless the guys seem to be about how important dating is in the grand scheme of things. It was really enlightening to know that he agrees with many of the thoughts and ideas that us single ladies have these days.

*I wrote about this conversation because I thought it was interesting and learned a lot. The priesthood leader was saying these things out of care and concern for those over whom he has stewardship over. Please take it in the spirit of love.